This famous piece of advice was supposedly given by Queen Victoria to her 17-year-old daughter, Princess Victoria Adelaide Mary Louise, on her wedding night in 1857, and has since become a catch-phrase for anything unpalatable. But it is most unlikely that the Queen ever said it; the phrase only appeared after her death in 1901.
The earliest known use of the phrase appears in the unpublished private diary of a certain Lady Alice Hillingham (1857-1940) written in 1912:
“I am happy now that (my husband) Charles calls on my bedchamber less frequently than of old. As it is, I now endure but two calls a week and when I hear his steps outside my door I lie down on my bed, close my eyes, open my legs, and think of England.”
It is now well known that Queen Victoria was extremely fond of sex and often presented her husband Albert with male and female nude artworks. Her diary as a young woman, before it was censored by her children, was full of frank references to her husband`s physique and male attributes.